Impact vs. Intention
As human beings we love to make assumptions. It’s one of the ways our brains make sense of the world around us. Unfortunately, this can lead to conflict in our interpersonal relationships. Words are easy to misinterpret and we fill in the blanks by assuming we know the true intention of others – and often we get it wrong.
Try this mindfulness micro-practice from the Search Inside Yourself Leadership Institute as a way to reframe your interactions with others and decipher the impact on you from the intention of others.
Use this mindfulness tool during difficult conversations – if you notice feelings of strong judgment or criticisms toward someone, or when you feel frustrated in communicating with others.
- Notice when you feel irritated or frustrated by the words or behaviours of someone.
- Pause and ask yourself: “Does the impact it is having on me match their intention?”
- Say to yourself: “Impact is not intention” as a reminder to consider the content, feelings and purpose that might be driving the other person’s behaviour.
In January 2018, UBC HR offered a Search Inside Yourself (SIY) training program for UBC Vancouver faculty and staff. For more information about the SIY leadership program, visit the Search Inside Yourself website.
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