Guest contribution by Wendy Quan
Mindfulness is pretty much a household term these days. It offers us a way to be present and non-judgmental, and helps us to improve our mental wellbeing. In this article, I would like to go beyond the typical explanation of how mindfulness can become part of your daily life.
We all have our internal struggles, and sometimes these conflicts feel like a dark cloud that follows us around. Here’s a specific example that may help you as you relate it to your own personal struggles.
My colleague – who I will call Joe – is a very successful consultant who travels over 50% of the time. This scenario is far from ideal as he is a single dad of two teenage children — although he has an excellent caregiving arrangement for his children that they are fine with. Joe loves his work: he helps corporate senior leaders develop conscious awareness as they run their organizations. Joe cannot say no to his work, as he feels he’s making a positive difference in the world.
How does Joe resolve doing purposeful, fulfilling work with being away from his family so much? If he quits his job, he’d feel he was turning his back on his life’s purpose, but if he stays in his job, the guilt of not being with his family would be painful.
Joe is a meditates, and he decided to apply the following principles of mindfulness in his meditation:
- Be completely present
- Observe his emotions, physical sensations, thoughts and whatever ‘comes up’
- Be non-judgmental of whatever arises
As he sat in mindfulness meditation, Joe had a revelation: he could see the conflict but would just ‘let it be’. In other words, Joe decided that he didn’t have to resolve the conflict or fix anything. Yes, the conflict was still there, but letting the situation ‘just be’ was an option. By making this decision, Joe found mental freedom in the realization that letting things be can be entirely okay.
This is a laser-focused example of mindfulness in action. If this idea intrigues you, see if it can work for you and some of your inner conflict. A more peaceful mind may be within reach.
Photo credit: Michelle Lee (Flickr)
Wendy Quan is an industry leader in helping organizations implement self-sustaining mindfulness meditation programs to create change resiliency. She is the founder of The Calm Monkey, the first and only online and in-person training and certification of its kind, which turns experienced meditators into Mindfulness Meditation Facilitators in the workplace and community.
Wendy is a certified organizational change manager who has been recognized as a pioneer by the Greater Good Science Center of the University of California, Berkeley and the global Association of Change Management Professionals. Her client list includes individuals from around the world and organizations such as Google and the government of Dubai. Her life’s purpose is to help people create a better experience of life.